Now he is threatening to resign the program and I will be homeless, etc. In front of the plumbers, trash talking me to one of them now... it is really sad to see him lower himself like that.
Since he is not being abusive to the plumber I figure the plumber can handle himself, and if anything it makes me look more sympathetic to them.
It's like he's trying to get the plumber to side with him, he is going on and on about how terrible I am, to the plumber. The plumber already expressed a great deal of sympathy/empathy for my situation so I know it doesn't matter it just makes Ron look like a jackass.
It is just embarrassing that I chose to bind myself to this man. And very sad.
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Sounds like Ron has finally snapped. Is there someone you could go stay with for a short time (your aunt, etc) if you have to?
I’m very sorry you’re going through this. You have the power to get out if this situation with him and all of us your blog readers will be here to support you. You don’t deserve this one second longer. Hugs.
The fact that he has ALL the power in your relationship is VERY sad. You have been given advice before about what to do. Now the only question is, will you or won't you protect yourself, your home (which you just paid a lot of money to fix and go into debt to fix) and your cats?
You should have asked for a 5150. A 5150 is the number of the section of the Welfare and Institutions Code, which allows a person with a mental illness to be involuntarily detained for a 72-hour psychiatric hospitalization. A person on a 5150 can be held in the psychiatric hospital against their will for up to 72 hours.
Here is the link to more information. Do a search for Texas. He would have qualified for the 72 hour hold.
https://mentalillnesspolicy.org/national-studies/state-standards-involuntary-treatment.html
Take a Uber and go to Walmart by way of Waffle House. Don't sit there and take it.
You need help...a 5150 is the way to go...if you don't get help, call the cops, every time he cannot get into bed or falls. You cannot keep covering all this up and you are every time you assist him into bed, or find him passed out on the floor. Please get help...call the cops until they fulfil the help you need.
I'm going to start making phone calls days like today - 911 was a dismal disappointment today but there is a county mental health line, and either Ron or I would qualify for services. If they heard a bipolar FAS is caregiving an alcoholic TBI they would help, that is why they are there, to prevent headlines. They were very helpful when I called after my diagnosis: I had been diagnosed bipolar and thrown out into the street with a couple of no-good phone numbers. I had to find my own way to a doctor, they were very helpful in helping me assess my options and such, very kind and professional, I still remember that all these years later. They are in my phone book and will get called next time.
You don't have to wait for next time. Call them tomorrow (or now if they are open now) and explain your situation and what happened today.
Ask for help for yourself. Do it asap before Ron calls for help claiming you are hurting him. He will ruin you and have no remorse. He proved it today. He will badmouth you to anyone. He will retaliate for you calling 911.
Call where he can't hear you. Make the call.
I agree, do not wait for next time!
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