Ron has struggled doing the reports for a few months now. Today he called our supervisor (the report is late, btw) and told her.
To me, that is basically saying "I quit", but he said she was very nice about it and said she would help him out. But still, he admitted he couldn't do a vital part of his job.
Which means he could be terminated and I'm out of work. I don't think he did the right thing today but we will see.
So things may be moving whether I want them to, or not.
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WTH? You have asked MANY, MANY times to do the report and now this A-HOLE decides instead of having you do the report he is going to call his supervisor and tell her he can't do it any more. And right now after you owe thousands of dollars to the plumbers for the repipe of the entire house. Talk about timing. He has never done anything to take care of you.
You will now have to get a job to support him and you and also to pay back your dad. What a bastard. Are you OK with paying the mortgage while he pisses away ALL his money that he may get from SSI on alcohol and lays around ALL day in bed drinking and blacking out?
For years I and others have been telling you to get your ducks in a row and get another job but you have ignored us all and insisted you were going to stick by him no matter what.
Best case you can sell the house and use any profit you make to pay your dad back. But that still leaves the issue of ALL the cats. Since Mama Cat is MIA you still have 5 left.
Well if he can’t do his job, he did do the right thing in telling his boss.
You will be so much better off not working for him and this “business” and you’d be able to get real heath insurance and retirement benefits. Those things are important. You are being screwed over.
Personally, I agree with Ron, it is becoming to much for him, and the stress alone of providing is probably why he is drinking. He has been trying to tell you for months he can't cope with everything. Let him retire, get on with a job. If he can't stay alone, he may belong in a nursing home. I can't see him in an assisted living facility. You are just to comfortable or you too would move on and let him retire gracefully. We all hate change, even you, the past 2 weeks prove that.
"the stress alone of providing is probably why he is drinking." LOL so you are saying that if he stops working and being stressed than the drinking will stop. I really doubt that. His wastefulness is the primary reason they have hardly any savings or money.
I agree with Ron. He can't do it. The second and third anonymous comments above nailed it. Agree with them completely.
You are eligible for assistance with job training and or job placement because of your disability. Plus, if Ron retires by honestly telling his supervisor that he can't do it anymore, perhaps she can write you an employment reference.
So ron is drinking because he is stressed about work? Does that include 5 and 6 years ago plus also? Heather is screwed and all you people think ron will stop drinking when he stops working. As if sorting change and breaking up boxes is that stressful. Lol. Plus heather offered to do the reports. If he didn't wait until the last minute to do the report and didn't drink a fifth of vodka daily maybe it wouldn't be so stressful. His mind is screwed up since he started on the pain pills which do nothing to alleve his pain so why take them. He is not even 60 yet.
When are they coming to do the drywall and floors? You need to choose flooring that will appeal to a buyer since you will probably lose the house thanks to ron.
Make sure you sell that hand cart for a GOOD price to the other vendor. Don't just let them have it.
Ron is over 60. 65 I think
All the equipment belongs to the state of Texas vendor program. It will go to the next vendor.
However, if the other vendor chose to buy themselves another cart they would get reimbursed. Which is why I have found that whole saga so frustrating.
Ron said she (boss) told him they can get an average of his other reports and do it that way. So I feel a little better about that; maybe they won't boot him.
I absolutely agree with the 7:28 PM comment. However he is well over 60. For some reason he is several years "younger" online.
The contractors say they want half up front and the bargain price of $13K for all the work. I can't exactly crap out $7K... I was "lucky" to get the repipe. So any work will have to wait on my insurance.
I am looking at laminate floors as they seem to be nice, reasonable cost, and have decent wear expectancy. Ron's room will have to get something waterproof due to all the urinal spills. I will take great joy in watching them rip out that carpet.
So he is not losing his job.
How long is it going to take for insurance to get going on this? Usually with an insurance claim everything goes through them not you. But it sounds like you have a cut rate insurance company. Tell them you need this done asap it is almost a month.
The sad thing is the only reason he spills urine all over the place is because he is drunk. You have lived with it so long you probably don't even notice the smell of urine anymore but it's there.
That's why I want to rip it all out and replace it with waterproof flooring. Then I can just mop up spills with some bleach water.
Insurance said they should get back to me this week. They have offered a hotel repeatedly so I credit them on that.
It doesn't sound like Ron is losing his job but who knows. He is pitiful in the wheelchair so he does have that to his credit.
A concrete floor would be terrible for urine spills
Laminate or tile would be the best option. They wven have vinyl flooring that looks like would as a consideration
He needs to go full on SSI starting now that would help in the way of bills for him . You could apply to the state as a full time caretaker maybe? I am sorry he is a disruptive narcissist and this is him pulling another power card. I am so so sorry Heather I wish you had more support yourself . Your own therapist instead of us randomn commenters who probably do more harm that good when it comes to stress. You are being given so much advice and there is subtle bullying still going on here int he way of victim blaming.
My advice would be to get yourself a therapist or advocate in real life who can help you plan your future and get him in SSI asap . People should not be implying you are going to loose your house that is just cruel and pointless at this point . It hurts Heather she is in enough shit as it is to please just stop . Imagine looking to your readers for support and finding nothing this above .
I loved the note someone named “Melanie” left on another page it was so heartwarming to read . You guys saying things about her house is cruel just again have some compassion.
He gets a disability check so we have that at list, it would cover the basics.
I am looking at some waterproof laminate for his room. Although I think concrete would be fine if sealed.
Ron telling his supervisor about his struggles to complete the report was his most responsible act in recent memory.
Even if he doesn't lose his job right now, it is clear he is deteriorating. You are eligible for so many types of support due to your disability, your caregiver burdens and your domestic abuse victim status. I have pointed them out repeatedly, as have others. I hope you are able to reach out to resources in your community to put plans in place to protect yourself.
I’m not seeing cruel house comments?
I agree about concrete being bad for urine. It’s porous and will soak it in. Plus it will be easier to sell with laminate.
It's funny, I thought it was a terrible idea. I almost swallowed my tongue when I heard him on the phone.
But hopefully God can use this for good. I averaged a B in my accounting classes so I am sure I could manage this if he will "let" me.
maybe you think it’s bad because you are seeing it from only your perspective. You want to keep working despite whatever is going on with Ron. Will you make him keep the business going if he is hooked up to a life support machine or dead? Weekend at bernies style. Lol
Heather will lose her house if she can't find a job and no she cannot get paid by the state to take care of him. They don't pay spouses and she would have to have inspections and her standards of care for him would be unacceptable.
When he was in a coma they took the business from him. So that's what happens when he gets too far along.
I was thinking about concrete getting cracks as house settles or floods. You also should consider if you ever had to sell the house, I don't know how popular concrete floors are, but for myself I wouldn't want them.
PS concrete is heavy, would you have to add more support under the house?
If I go concrete it would just be staining the existing slab, the carpet and padding has been removed already.
Oh ok didn't know that.
Did some research... a big PITA and likely NOT doing that... not crazy about using an acid spray in the house even if a contractor is doing it. So some sort of vinyl plank for Ron and maybe tile for me.
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