The leech

The intermittent fasting is working great for me, it is very doable and I just eat in an 8 hour window.  Yesterday I did go crazy and had a small yogurt about 2 hours late.  I'll call that my cheat day. 

I just love Yoplait lemon yogurt and I found it in the fridge.  Everyone else loves it, too, because Walmart is always sold out when I put it for delivery.  It's just motivation to look when I am in the store. 

So I am very pleased with that, it is working well for me.  I haven't weighed yet but my pants are pretty loose.  I tend to a bad obsession with measuring all my stats every day and that is not healthy, so I try to limit when I do measure/weigh. 

Ron woke me up, very upset, last night about Baby Girl.  I reminded him we did this for her health, she had mats.  She would have been in pain and had sores.  That is why we shaved her.  At some point he accused me of doing it cosmetically.  I said if I had done that I would have done it with Biscuit.  Sometimes he has issues with his back end and a "sanitary" would be a good idea. 

Ron wouldn't hear it, why did I do it, why did I punish Baby Girl with a shave.  I told him she needed it.  I had to keep reminding him.  I also began reminding him he green lighted the cut, I told him several times "Everything but the head and tail".  "I didn't know" "Well, you do now, this is what a lion cut looks like - everything but the head and tail".  The customary lion cut has everything shaved on the tail but the tip but I said no to that because she has never had mats in her tail and I like it. 

So I got a lot of grief about it today, just like the time I asked "permission" (It makes me gag to type this) to cut my hair short, he said it was fine, several times said it was fine, he didn't care, whatever made me happy.  I cut it and he blows a gasket moaning and crying about how pretty I was and why did I do it.

EXACT same thing here.  Some sort of game to make me the bad guy and BG is the "victim".  Talking about her "beautiful mink coat" MINK ARE DEAD in the coat.  Telling Baby Girl "It will grow back".  The cat was already embarrassed.  Making a big production is not going to help her.  She wants love, sleep with Ron, treats.  Petting.  Not hysterics... and he had them last night it was embarrassing. 

Then lots of drama with his TV set up.  He has a cable box in his room hooked to wireless headphones.  Short version.  He does not have a TV because he doesn't need one. 

He has consistently broken the headphones and transmitters, again and again, over the years.  He could set them up himself, usually, and would give me the money to buy new ones.  But of course they stopped making them.  His last offense he broke the headphones and has been having me tape them every day. 

Yesterday I found him a new transmitter and had it delivered same day.  He kept bugging me all day when is it coming.  It came, it had to be charged.  He knocked it off the charging dock the first night, I had to charge it again today. 

In the meantime he is bugging me to tape his headphones again "Is the power light on my cable box" "My TV isn't working" (I tracked that down to bad batteries in the remote), etc. Every couple minutes. 

Super frustrating for me.  This is supposed to be my day off.  The headphones charged.  I set up the transmitter and plugged it into his cable box.  It is really idiot proof because it has color coded RCA plugs.  I set it up, it's working. 

He tried to change the channel on the TV, it didn't work.  I can't tell him what is wrong because he doesn't have a TV, or even a place to put one.  He has a raggedy plastic dresser that is falling apart and full of junk.  Sometimes the cable box gets into what I call "exit mode" where it stops transmitting the channel, instead "sharing" "helpful tips" and I have to hit "Exit" several times to get back to the TV show.  It didn't work.  Ron accused me of "breaking his TV" and demanded his old setup back. 

I told him I can't "fix" whatever is wrong without a TV but for that we will need a solid table or dresser for it to sit.  He didn't care, I 'broke" it "it is all my fault" and "give me back my old setup".  Which means I get to listen to him bitch about my taping job every 5 minutes and demand I retape it again and again. 

Then he does the whole "It's not your fault" thing and I blew up at him and said NO IT IS NOT IT NEVER IS AND STOP SAYING THAT.  I didn't say this but EXTREMELY passive aggressive.  I said there is no cause to do it and it is rude and blaming.  By saying "It's not your fault' you are absolutely saying the OPPOSITE and I am SICK of it.  He shouted back and I left. 

Maybe now I can get 10 minutes to myself for a change.  He's been like a leech the last couple days.

We had another argument about Baby Girl "Ron will never let it happen again".  "Yes, if you brush her"  "I'm not talking about that" "You should, if you don't want her shaved you need to brush her".  like that. 

So I am insisting he brush her.  I see the need to shave as a failure on my part.  She had a partial shave back in July due to mats, I should have stayed on top of that but I believed Ron would do it (brush) for her because he values her highly. 

Now he just threatened to "pull the plug" on our life "Even though I won't like it".  If/when he does that he will find I will not take him back.  He can just rot in his hellhole.