I took a picture of it, as it is almost healed. I am not putting the image direct. It is not pretty (not open wound but still going to be a nasty scar, and looking at it I am amazed he didn't unman himself). I know a few are inclined medically so I will put it up.
New link
There it is. If you are interested I might take a photo of Ron's finger and do it like this, with a link that has to be clicked because it is awful (to me).
I can't help but think it would have healed a lot faster if he had eaten more protein.
This may work for you if the first one doesn't:
I have tested the link and it works for me. You may have a problem if you are not signed in to a google account. But I really don't want to put the image up because some are squeamish and it will show at the bottom of the page.
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So your blog is just one big mind fuck for your readers. You get comments about your previous post and then just randomly put up a link about his nasty injuries. Who cares if it leaves a scar the man is an ugly monster.
The link isn’t working..
link not working
The link works for me, I will try to see if it's a private setting on google photos.
About the other no, I just saw him lying there with the leg sticking out and thought "Why don't I get a photo?" There was a lot of interest in the burn and the healing process so I thought some would like to see the end result.
He CAN be an asshole. Like many abusers, many times he is NOT. That is the problem I have to live with. If he were a turd all the time it would be easy to throw him out and get on with my life. And on some level he knows that.
But he IS AN ASSHOLE
He can be. I am developing a theory that no one is 100% anything ALL the time. Jerks are not always jerks. Nice people aren't always. We all take great pains to show the world what we want them to see but good people have dark sides and bad people can be good at times.
NOT excusing his ONGOING abuse, I can call it that now - it took me decades to admit that.
Today? He was OK. He knows I have limits and can only take so much ESPECIALLY since he kept me up all night and then dragged me to work.
My wife and I argue sometimes. All my friends argue with their spouses sometimes. None of them to the level Ron does. None of them do what he does.
Are you kidding? Of course bad people can be good and good can be bad—but he says horrible things all the time.
Stockholm syndrome could be the reason you are so stuck on seeing good in Ron Sad to say the better you are to him the more angry he seems to get and that is what finally drove me away. ...Heather as you said you have been with him since you were a “child” and he groomed you to put up with his crap by intimidation, degradation and threats, he has taken your bouts of mental illness and used them still uses them against you to this day...TRUST ME ON THIS DEAR GIRL ...It is really easy to forget someone is a huge asshole when you are deep in the cycle of abuse. It took me five years to leave and only because I would have died if I stayed . Even then it was hard to see. It really is ok to ask for help dear Heather and that is all I can offer in advice .
I know you understand I wish you nothing but strength to do what is right for you and your cats. Ron is so fked up I remember telling you ages ago to think of this like “hospice care” and truly that is what it is turning into ..but even then people get help and relief so they can leave the house safely and regain strength . You CAN get help cleaning your house and tending to Ron there is no disgrace in asking . If you are going to stay with him then make the world livable for both of you.
If you could get therapy for you there are great treatments for PTSD due to Domestic violence and having been through it myself I can tell it works. But you can not do this with someone screaming at you every 2 min.
You are both eligible for SSI and with that YOU could probably go back to school and be retrained there are programs out there . Work on making yourself employable or go on SSI full time. But first working on your physical and mental health. None of what you are going through is good for you right now. It never has been but the more he declines the more you will need help just to refresh so you can go at it again.
We all offer you ideas and you have some wonderful loyal readers giving you amazing advise , even your curmudgeons seem to care or why would they get so miffed? I mostly worry you are exhausted, not eating well yourself and jumping so much it stimulates your cortisol and that is not good for you! Especially with no real help or relief literally in years ...other than a few short visits with your aunt a year and the weekend away with your folks . You need real relief and I know you hate being told what to do so I will stop . Just please know there is help if you call APS a domestic abuse hotline or a crisis line ..or you go to the SS office and get started on his paper work asking for hookups with a social worker get a case manager ? you can call for yourself to get help with Ron...Dear girl his behavior is horrible . It does not have to be a nursing home it is cheaper to arrange care at home and give you the help you need . But you have to do some leg work to get things going.
Ps the burn looks good and is healing nicely
Thank you, he kept putting cases of drinks on top of it (through clothes) at work, etc. I had my hands full with that one, at one point it got infected (until I got peroxide). Glad it is done and now let's get the hand over with and hopefully be DONE for a while.
She can’t get a job because there’s another person out there with her name who wrote some bad things on a message board 🙄 therefore, she will never be hired by anyone ever.
I never said I CAN'T, it will just complicate things. If an employer does a google search before talking to me they will see how the other Heather can't go a day without her Vikes.
I can get another job but don't want an office one - fashion show every day, transit issues, out of touch on software, etc. I am thinking a warehouse type job.
From what I hear from all employers it is very hard to find a reliable and hardworking employee and most are willing to pay a premium. I am dependable and don't even look at my phone except for the time. That, I believe, is unusual.
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