Thanksgiving evening

I had a good time at my aunt's house.  She wasn't feeling well but her sons and daughters in law rallied to give her a good Thanksgiving. 

I had a good time. 

Came home, my uncle said hello to Ron, and left.  Later on Ron starts talking "I don't mean to make you feel bad..." 

Next time I am going to stop him dead right there and say "Then don't say whatever it is". 

Then he goes on about "(I) can't drive and how much it sucks, how great it was with some other bitch who could drive (this is the one he used to beat up)"  Kept going on about how "free he used to be" and "how limited now, but I still love you (long suffering tone of voice)". 

Bullshit.  I save him a fortune, not driving.  No car insurance, no fueling up, no oil changes, maintenance, repair, etc.  I hardly ever go out, most of the time when I do it is by myself. 

It's rude and hurtful.  You will never catch me telling Ron all the things I wish he could do but can't because he is blind and crippled.  I never bitch (to him) about having to make accommodations. 

He is just playing sour grapes, wishing for the one thing he doesn't have; sort of like when I was thin "I wish you had bigger breasts and butt" I gained weight "I wish you were thin"  I lose weight "I wish you had a bigger butt".  I finally got wise and said - it I will be at a weight that makes me happy because he is NEVER going to be happy.  Now he whines and moans about how great it used to be when we first got together (explict statement) "When your hips were so bony". 

Sort of like the time I had long hair, it was a big hassle.  I asked if he minded if I cut my hair.  He said go for it very positive and supportive.  About 2 days after I cut it "Oh, I wish it was long".  Well, why didn't you say something three days ago?!  Super annoying but it made me realize Ron wants what he can't have and will never be happy with what he does have. 

Sort of like he was talking about this married woman he knew, he had a thing for her but she stayed faithful to her husband.  How upsetting it was for him.  "The one that got away". 

Well, we all have disappointments. 

He just complained about his headphones.  I was all set to help him find a new pair when he pulled it out of the jack and it was porn.  [rolleyes]  Aren't we a little OLD for that? 

I have a little headache but not horrible.  I think I will go to bed early. 

It was interesting watching my cousins' children today.  The kids next door make a tremendous amount of racket when they play outside, screaming at the top of their lungs, crashing noises, throwing stuff into the side of my house, etc. like they did last night.  My relatives were so quiet playing outside I had to look out the window to see them.  They kept it at a very reasonable level even playing inside the house.  The toddler yelled a little now and then but he doesn't really have words yet so expected. 

It just confirmed you can teach your children to be reasonable and respectful at a young age and not allow them to run wild like screaming animals in the middle of the night, when you want to have a good time.  We had a good family gathering and I doubt the neighbors even knew how many kids we had.  And I didn't hear their neighbors, either. 

My conclusion: they don't have to be full throttle just because they are kids.  It does beg the question what #6 is allowing the kids to consume that makes them so wild into the wee hours of the morning.  Coffee?  Energy drinks?   God only knows. 

But I have to figure they are giving something.