Coming to terms with losing my husband and sharing my faith. "A Bible that's falling apart belongs to someone who isn't"
Wednesday, January 9, 2019
Working on the report
Which means no computer for me. Ron: drunk, abusive, shouting. Says he is going to resign the program, live off his disability, and leave me out in the street.
He won't hear the report would be a lot easier if he didn't drink so much, first.
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Sounds like a really fun afternoon. Why can't you just do the report yourself? It would be easier and no drunken, moron to have to deal with.
Has he picked out the nursing home where he will probably be going to...social services will likely get involved if he want you out of the picture. I would be taking pictures...the judge will likely want some if you need to declare him incompetent...which he is... he is only able to live at home due to your caregiving 24/7/365. You need to get a job soon, it may allow you to live in your home, if you can afford the house payments, insurance, meds, transportation, food... Hiding under the cloud of being tired, from lack of sleep, I think you would do a great job at any thing you choose to do...but you need to be planning. Your aunt and uncle have only a partial picture, as you keep them from the worst of it. They are your best allies...but they can't help you in decision making if you leave them with only a best scenario picture of what is really happening. This isn't about Ron, this is about taking care of yourself...he is telling you he is tired of this physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Prayers.
I mean the guy leaves bottles of URINE in the fridge and somehow tries to blame it on you. I think Heather should Quit The Ron Program, love off her disability/new part time job, and leave Ron and his vodka wherever. It’s clear he can’t handle this job anymore. He is totally incompetent. When is the report due?
Report is due tomorrow, one reason I get frustrated at him for waiting 'till the last minute.
My aunt and uncle have a pretty good image, she reads the blog, btw. Not every day but now and then to check in. She has heard him drunk and verbally abusing me over the phone. It's my parents who are pretty clueless.
He won't show me how to do it, it is "his" thing and seems a lot more complicated than it needs to be. Probably only needs 2 spreadsheets, he has several. For each month.
That’s pretty immature and irresponsible of him to 1. Not show you how to do it as a backup (I mean, what if he literally CANT for whatever reason) and 2. To wait until the last minute. Putting your family business/livelihood at risk. You are intelligent and capable of doing this report, he’s a moron. Is it possible for you to find out what the requirements are to be submitted each month, and sort of “reverse engineer” it, creating your own version of it? What a headache. :(
Also, I think any employer would be ecstatic to have a hard working employee as you. Just think, you could work for someone who respects you as a human being and is sober!
One thing I have done is cultivate work associates who know me and gotten their numbers to use as references. Because, should Ron and I split, it's going to be very ugly and he would never give me a good reference.
But when I came very close back in 2012, I think, he was utterly shocked and told me he felt marriage was for life. A lot of mixed messages from him.
7 comments:
Sounds like a really fun afternoon. Why can't you just do the report yourself? It would be easier and no drunken, moron to have to deal with.
Has he picked out the nursing home where he will probably be going to...social services will likely get involved if he want you out of the picture. I would be taking pictures...the judge will likely want some if you need to declare him incompetent...which he is... he is only able to live at home due to your caregiving 24/7/365. You need to get a job soon, it may allow you to live in your home, if you can afford the house payments, insurance, meds, transportation, food...
Hiding under the cloud of being tired, from lack of sleep, I think you would do a great job at any thing you choose to do...but you need to be planning. Your aunt and uncle have only a partial picture, as you keep them from the worst of it. They are your best allies...but they can't help you in decision making if you leave them with only a best scenario picture of what is really happening. This isn't about Ron, this is about taking care of yourself...he is telling you he is tired of this physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Prayers.
I mean the guy leaves bottles of URINE in the fridge and somehow tries to blame it on you. I think Heather should Quit The Ron Program, love off her disability/new part time job, and leave Ron and his vodka wherever. It’s clear he can’t handle this job anymore. He is totally incompetent. When is the report due?
Report is due tomorrow, one reason I get frustrated at him for waiting 'till the last minute.
My aunt and uncle have a pretty good image, she reads the blog, btw. Not every day but now and then to check in. She has heard him drunk and verbally abusing me over the phone. It's my parents who are pretty clueless.
He won't show me how to do it, it is "his" thing and seems a lot more complicated than it needs to be. Probably only needs 2 spreadsheets, he has several. For each month.
That’s pretty immature and irresponsible of him to 1. Not show you how to do it as a backup (I mean, what if he literally CANT for whatever reason) and 2. To wait until the last minute. Putting your family business/livelihood at risk. You are intelligent and capable of doing this report, he’s a moron. Is it possible for you to find out what the requirements are to be submitted each month, and sort of “reverse engineer” it, creating your own version of it? What a headache. :(
Also, I think any employer would be ecstatic to have a hard working employee as you. Just think, you could work for someone who respects you as a human being and is sober!
One thing I have done is cultivate work associates who know me and gotten their numbers to use as references. Because, should Ron and I split, it's going to be very ugly and he would never give me a good reference.
But when I came very close back in 2012, I think, he was utterly shocked and told me he felt marriage was for life. A lot of mixed messages from him.
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