Went to bed, slept OK
EXCEPT
Ron had a little trouble getting to the bathroom. OK with that, price of admission.
And Pa came in. We named him Pa because he is not fixed and likely the father of Cleo and Spotty (looks like a bigger version of Spotty).
Biscuit does not like Pa. Hates him quite intently. They get into it every time.
Pa wants to live here. Biscuit does not want that.
1. I don't want another cat and
2. Biscuit said no so it's done - no admission.
BUT Pa figured out the cat door and apparently made it all the way over to the food bowl last night while Biscuit was out. Then Biscuit came back and found Pa in the house eating HIS food... it didn't go well.
Huge cat fight... and then Pa came back some time later. Another cat fight, I think 3 total.
So much for getting my sleep. It ended with Biscuit perched on my cot right next to the cat door.
So I will be locking the cat door at night, now. I feel a little bad but the weather is VERY nice and pleasant, no real rain and they have shelters.
I spent good money on the cat house, which Torbie has used on at least one occasion. I also constructed some other shelters in the back yard.
It is a shame but I need my sleep.
Ron was pretty wasted this morning but is quiet right now. The guys are here sanding, Carlos says he may be able to do my flooring which would be great. He is diligent and takes pride in doing a good job so I think he would be fair and skilled. He has done laminate which is pretty much the same thing.
That would be great I would love to have one guy do all of it. We both agreed $1500 was way too much for the job so I think he will be fair.
Most people who get this flooring install it themselves because it is a pretty easy DIY job. If you have a saw. And are good using them which me, would just be a terrible idea. Plus I have a bad knee so kneeling...
So we will see.
I have decided, for now, NOT to do Ron's room. He will buy me a vacuum and carpet shampoo machine and I will just use them as needed. I don't want to ruin new flooring.
I may buy the flooring material and keep it in the garage so I can install it eventually but not at this point. We will see.
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Can you do the bathroom with the new flooring instead and get a new toilet at the same time?
The cats should not have free range 24/7 anyway and if you actually fixed the catio you would not have to worry about stray getting in. Plus I thought Biscuits food was not just left out ALL the time. I guess just more lies and BS from you.
It’s also not fair to your entire neighborhood allowing ALL those cats free range to shit and piss on their property and bother their animals.
But I forgot you hate thy neighbor.
The cats come in to use the box, I find it very amusing and have discussed before. I had to clean the boxes again this morning, in fact. About the only marking behavior I have seen is scratching claws on tree trunks and exposed roots.
I agree with sheet vinyl flooring for Ron's room. You could get a pattern that would come close to matching the planks, and the cost is reasonable.
Ironically heather had the catio made because she was worried about the safety of her cats after a couple were killed in unfortunate ways. Now it seems she doesn't give a shit either way what happens to them. Could it be that heather is the one with the problems and not ron? Sure we know she has mental illness but perhaps it is not as controlled as she pretends it is. Her blatant disregard for her cats well being since before Christmas has been pretty shocking to say the least. Not to mention her willingness to continue being a doormat for her abusive and alcoholic husband.
He took money out of their savings and depleted it to next to nothing. Wastes $500 plus a month on vodka. She said he would be the one paying her dad back and that was a lie. Now she wants to spend money on ron to cleanup his piss laden room instead of using that money to properly fix her bathroom floor or even just use a portion of the money to pay her dad back faster.
I just don't understand her willingness to spend money on this man who clearly is so selfish that he won't contribute to the maintenance of his own home and who willingly destroys it.
I am very sad the cats have free range outside . That is not cool for the wildlife or your cats. Especially Biscuit. You have a huge mess on your hands with your husband. But the cats should be kept indoors this is dangerous and scary. How did it happen? You have done a 180 on this keeping cats safe in doors thing. They do not need the good weather or to be out of doors. .
I would be furious if I was your neighbor and you let all those cats wander. Biscuit will eat anything he finds out there and get sick again. I am sad and disappointed about the cats.
I love my Bissell Spotbot
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e36U__WGFrQ
Carlos has already installed a vanity over a gap in flooring. Good contractors wouldn't do that. I suspect Carlos just sees easy money. You have already told him that you trust his judgment, and you clearly allow substandard work. Get a quote or two from people who have actually installed this specific flooring before.
Are you having baseboard trim installed over the flooring? Are there rooms adjoining the vinyl plank area that will not have vinyl planks? If so, you will need doorway transition pieces. Make sure your quote includes installation of those things and you have the materials ordered.
Yeah go ahead and buy the material and let it get warped in the Texas heat in the garage. Why won't you force him to replace the flooring in his room? He is the reason it is destroyed he should have to pay to replace it.
Yes, we are doing trim. And transition pieces.
Somehow I doubt you are. Since you already lied about the vanity not being installed and then the next day it was magically already installed
Exactly a decent contractor would never so such shoddy work. But a fly by night Craig's list contractor would
She bought tile to have Carlos piece meal this in where the bathroom door was widened and this does not match the existing tile if that tells you anything.
Ironically Medicaid would have paid to have the door widened and make the house more handicap accessible for Ron. But heather would rather pay for it with money not allocated for that purpose and she refuses to ask for help
You will love the look when it's done. Ours looked nice before the trim, but it looked even better once the trim was done.
Give this some thought: You could get emergency respite for Ron in order to renovate his room. Get him out of the house and get the job done. He needs help and services anyway. Call 211 or the Area Agency on Aging number I have given you before. Tell them your story and ask for help. His room is unsanitary and you don't want to be blamed for letting him live in there.
I know someone who worked at an agency that did the widening, ramps, grab bars. You have to give up your tax returns, social security numbers, all income information, very personal disability information, incredibly invasive home inspection, etc. to get the services. Many times you have to "prove" you are low income.
If someone would just come out and do it, great, but I am not letting people get all up in my business for that. You have no control over who sees it too, and the databases input are not secure. Carlos was happy to widen it and rolled it into his bid.
If/when I do Ron's room I will move him into the vacant computer room, do the work, and then either leave him there or move him back (Likely moved back).
I didn't lie about anything... he brought the vanity in the house and set it in the bathroom. That was one day. Then it was caulked. The plumbing was not connected so it wasn't ready to go yet. Today he connected the plumbing and drain. It works great.
I got the contractor off Angie's list and he is very highly reviewed. He will also get a very good review from me with photos, and a good tip as well.
We are actually eager to get the ceiling photos online because there was so much damage to the ceiling and it looks perfect now, even before paint. It is a good testament to the work they do (he has a partner).
What do you have to hide????
Big deal so you have to give that information, information the government already has. Very personal disability information? You post it here for all to read. Income and tax information; what do you have to hide? You're right your brain is fried, your thinking is not coherent.
So, you won't accept help for Ron from any organization that wants to verify personal information in order to justify providing the services he needs?
“If someone would just come out and do it, great, but I am not letting people get all up in my business for that. You have no control over who sees it too, and the databases input are not secure.”
Who cares who sees if it helps you?
You also don’t have anything to steal or are worth it to do fraud to for an employee.
Also how do you know they aren’t secure?
You have excuses for everything that isn’t Ron.
He can call you a bitch and piss everywhere (my dog is house broken)? Fine.
A group that could fix all this, make your home safer, help you?
They need a form so no way screw them.
A caregiver group that may be able to help?
They need me to Uber to them and I imagine they won’t get me so no.
You are going off the rails and it’s troubling to see. You are letting Ron make your life terrible and you don’t care.
I used to read your blog and marvel at how well you did and positive you are. Now it is seeing a glimpse into hell.
The sad part is you just allow it and roll over instead of doing any steps to fix things.
"Personal info" is one thing. Social security numbers are another. And my friend used to tell me how they would write them on the intake forms and leave them lying around the office for anyone to see. Right next to the copy machine.
And he would marvel how many people had "a problem" with giving up the data, and how room-mates, even, were required to give socials and income information so the other person could qualify for services, and how, generally, the room-mate refused... he would say what an asshole the room-mate was and I was thinking "I'd do the exact thing".
If I call an ambulance all they need are names, phone number, address. And that is someone coming out to my house and, on occasion, providing thousands of dollars in service. I would have NO problem giving that up. Not my social. I still have some insurance money in my account and I want to keep it for repairs.
I think the real problem is your income does not qualify for said services because he makes to much money. The sad part about that is that neither of you have anything to show for it because you are both wasteful
A... friend told you this?
They aren’t right.
Giving that stuff off is fine. If anyone did, which is unlikely, have it, the damage they can do now is minor.
Heather, I run a small business, if I never gave away my social I couldn’t do anything. Everyone I hire gives me theirs.
It’s really not a big deal. It’s scary—I get that. You have fears. But you could be better off. It’s like you with Uber. You had fears but overcame them.
They NEED YOUR SOCIAL. They have to verify you qualify for the services you are requesting. Would you want people who don’t qualify to get these things?
You are delusional but I suspect there is a different reason you don’t want to give up the SSN.
Of course, if they bill the government they need social security numbers. Of course, they need disability info how are they going to help if they don't know what the disabilities are? You are a married couple, not roommates. Do you have thousands of dollars in your account other than the insurance money for repairs? They don't count the insurance money.
You are overly paranoid and ridiculous with these excuses.
You don't know what personal information any organization needs in order to provide services because you refuse to reach out and ask.
Your excuses are disgusting. Are you afraid these professionals will come in and give Ron a voice? You currently control the narrative and twist it constantly. Ron has no involved family and no one to advocate for him. He is isolated and deteriorating. He needs help.
The government gives away billions a year to other countries, they don't "need to prove you deserve" disabled equipment. If someone can prove citizenship/residency they should get it. I have no problem showing an ID card. Big problems giving my social. Ron has it and the bank has it. That is it.
And what can we get, really? The only thing I had was widening the doorway and I did that. Ron doesn't want a walk in tub or grab bars (I may still do that just for me getting out of the tub). He has 3 wheelchairs.
The only thing he could use is a helper sometimes and neither of us is at that point yet.
Ron has a telephone and can make any call he wants. I will make a post to illustrate. My aunt and uncle check on him as well. Paratransit drivers could make a report as well, doctors, etc. He is not "voiceless".
Well I will pray that a paratransit worker makes a report then. That’s about all the hope there is.
Yes, people absolutely do need to prove they qualify for services like these. I honestly can’t believe, you, after all the pissing and moaning about your neighbor, is saying this. Wow.
You don’t want them to know the truth.
I'm from the govt. and here to help you, said... no one I trust
The government gives billions to other countries because we are a super power and it keeps them doing what we want... or for charity. And they aren’t just giving it away.
Heather you give away your social for so much.
And they can give you help and advice.
Ron is too soaked to understand and will never call.
Your husband is in poor shape and dying and could get help but is too mentally disturbed to do it and you refuse for excuses.
What if Ron has prostate cancer?
My Dad actually had it and it was not a big deal. They would not operate on my Dad due to age and poor health but nuked it away so no big deal. If I'm going to worry I'm going to worry about his brain and liver.
That is so ignorant I can’t even with you. I swear to god heather come on!!!! I’ve known enough people to die from various cancers, you don’t just let them suffer and let it metastasize. Get it checked out. All cancer is a big deal.
I will get him to a primary and take it from there.
Yes she really has done a 180 since I began reading a few years ago. I don't know if the water damage to the house caused this break or maybe the different medication she is on because her regular brand the pharmacy was not able to get but something is really off with her lately.
The haldol has been gone for about a year so not that. Doc did reduce my dosage of lithium back in October due to toxicity.
"The haldol has been gone for about a year so not that. Doc did reduce my dosage of lithium back in October due to toxicity. "
That explains a lot. Something is clearly wrong with you mentally and your medications are not addressing it. You lack empathy for your animals, even for ron as you still have not made a doctors appointment for him even though he said he needed to see the doctor. Your behavior is very scary and you should make an appointment to speak with your own doc ASAP.
He didn't say "I have to go to a doctor" it was more "I ought to get this checked out, sometime... no I don't want to make an appointment right now". About the rest, my family is not concerned. Neither are the customers for that matter.
A customer had to tell you and Ron to stop fighting at work the other day. You yelled at Ron on paratransit recently. I agree with 2:44 comment completely. Something is wrong and your medication is not addressing it.
Your family is not involved enough in your life to notice. You rarely see your Aunt, and you talk to your parents weekly when they feel like it (and they only want to hear good things).
Ron needs help. For so many reasons. Do the right thing
I told him to shut up when he was yelling about crabs. You make it sound like I went off on him, I didn't. Work: I corrected him, which he hates, and he went off on me.
He thought it was 60 years ago and you yelled at him to make him shut up. It doesn't matter if you consider that "going off on him" or not. Yelling at someone who doesn't know what's going on is abuse.
He shouldn't be working anymore. He is incapable of doing the work and he has said repeatedly that he wants to retire. The contract should be given to another blind vendor.
He needs help.
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