Ron's pissed at me but I don't care. We went out to dinner and got home a little after 6. Ron told me he had arranged with a cab driver to bring him vodka after 6:30.
He had to go to the bathroom, but still called the cab driver to hurry him up. Then he griped and moaned about how he had to "go" and how "A loving wife" would pay the cab when he got there, while Ron used the toilet.
I told him 1. You should have gone to the bathroom before you called the cab and 2. You know I won't buy you alcohol. He then said he was angry at my mother for, basically, "ruining" me as an enabler. Comments like that have totally enraged one family member, and I don't blame them for being pissed (remember my birth mother is dead).
No, I told him, it has nothing to do with her. I don't really even remember her drinking. It has everything to do with you. You are abusive, physically and verbally, when you drink. Why would I help you hurt me?
He got upset and said he wasn't abusive "every" time he drinks, and he couldn't control it. I told him I am evil off my medication, abusive even. I control it by making sure I always take my medication. Implication being, he can control "it" by not drinking.
He got very upset and hasn't spoken to me for a while. Fine.
I'm not sorry I said it. It was all the truth and I am sick of him blaming me for his alcoholism.
He also made some really disgusting and sick comments during dinner. I plan to discuss it with him tomorrow and let him know I want nothing to do with the subject anymore, even "wondering out loud". Ugh.
Thank God we never had children.
3 comments:
I feel so badly for your situation totally understand and empathize with why you think you have to stay
But Heather it is better out there on your own than slamming your head against a wall of pain.
When I left him my pain headaches nightmares all went away . I still have issues I need to take meds the rest of my life for ..but the aches and pains and fatigue. I sleep so well, eat better and have a peaceful life
Much love and huge hugs
"Thank God we never had children." I know it's just an expression but if you had left the birth control up to god and not taken action to prevent babies - you probably would have had at least one child. There are so many people who are so selfish that they will have kids regardless of the potential outcome for said child. I applaud you for this one.
A loving husband wouldn't ask his wife to do what bothers her. You can offer to make an appt at the pain clinic if it's really the only reason hev drinks.
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