Oh, I hate that routine.
I woke up this morning with a savage headache. Ron has, consistently, told me to smoke the hemp in the house. Consistently. When I've told him I'll go outside he always tells me to stay in and do it.
Ron had a coughing attack this morning that he said scared him. After I got him settled I went up front and had the hemp. He began protesting immediately so I shut his door and turned the fan on. More complaints.
SO I can't deal with my headache or burn incense OR any sort of a candle because he now finds them offensive. I wasn't happy. I was just trying to spank my headache and here he is acting like I lit a brush fire on his carpet.
Just now he called me on my phone and said I needed the money he provides in the relationship, but if I kept smoking hemp in the house he would throw me out. I told him all he had to do was say it was a problem, and reminded him he had gone out of his way to say it WASN'T a problem for months now. He acknowledged that but did the "I'm a poor sick man I was just in the hospital you have to do what I want".
Thanks, Mom and Dad...his parents let him get away with murder and he thinks this sort of manipulation is totally OK now. Who called the ambulance? Who saw the problem? Who gave his entire medical history to the paramedics and the doctor? Who got him and brought him home? Who did all the research on how to manage this? All I do is take care of him.
I feel like I go out of my way to kiss his ass every day and I don't like getting scolded because I did something he told me to do.
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You are smoking, drinking and doing all these weird things. You should not be smoking inside it ruins the walls and makes the house stink. Plus incense is the most disgusting smelling stuff so I don't blame him for hating that too. You are out of control Heather and can't even see it.
Normally he is OK with scents I think it is a seizure thing.
If I drank as much as you all thought I wouldn't be able to post, I had one beer over a week ago and that's it.
You, you, you all about you.
You are just angry I have not turned into a lush so you can throw more rocks at me.
I think some readers are angry because I have stuck with Ron, and they see any small obstacle to a relationship as cause to end it, only want "perfect" mates, etc. Are angry I am making lemonade in my life.
That is of course their problem and not mine. I allow some attacks but not all of them.
Agree completely with 9:58 and 10:48.
Ron's medical conditions should have been evaluated months ago. Don't pat yourself on the back too hard for all you have done. Making lemonade would have been getting him help, learning what was wrong, and moving forward together so you both had the support you needed.
"You are just angry I have not turned into a lush so you can throw more rocks at me." It's just a matter of time at the rate you're going.
Rons abuse is not a SMALL obstacle. Nor is his drinking which leads to more abuse. Him being wheelchair bound and blind is not a big deal it is the abuse that we all take issue with.
"Should". You are not me and you don't live with him. I cannot get him help he doesn't want.
Getting help for yourself in caring for Ron would have helped you and Ron. You can't adequately care for him because of his behavior and his advancing medical needs.
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